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Selfless acts

I suppose that most psychologists would argue that there is no such thing as true ‘selfless giving’ but I can think of one or two people I know that are extremely generous in mind and deed and who I would be inclined to call them ‘selfless’. To be clear, my definition of a ‘selfless giver’ is one who gives (or does) for others without any expectation of something in return.  To test the psychologists line of argument, let’s imagine a situation where you did a good deed for someone, without them even knowing it was you. What could the possible [...]

2018-10-18T07:41:56+00:000 Comments

Dominant Groups

If I were to ask whether you felt you belong to a dominant group or a non-dominant group, what would you reply? Perhaps this little test can help?  According to classical sociological definition, a dominant group is one with the upper hand, power, social status and / or certain privileges. The dominant group is often the one which sets out and controls the values system, i.e. what is considered right and wrong. Billy Jean King once said “Dominant groups know little about non-dominant groups, while non dominant groups tend to know a lot about dominant groups.” And hearing her say [...]

2018-10-08T12:22:46+00:000 Comments

Rainy day thoughts

I have a giant backlog of work; taken too much on again. So here I am on a Sunday afternoon behind the screen of a computer while the rain gently falls on the flat roof of my home office. I have been here all day, I need a break and a boost to get me through. But I am still smiling because, this last half an hour I have been listening to a CD that has lifted my spirits – Steely Dan’s ‘Countdown to Ecstasy’. I haven’t heard it for years, probably more than 30! It doesn’t so much as [...]

2018-09-23T16:06:58+00:002 Comments

The effect we have on others

There’s a big ship leaving harbour, as she sails out into the sunset, sea birds follow in her wake, ducking and diving behind her. When I look back on my life so far, I think of the things I have done, the things I have said or written and indeed, the things I should have said and written. I think of situations, moments in time, scattered along my life, like ports of harbour along the way.  But rarely do I reflect on the wake I made and the effect it must have had on others. I believe each of us [...]

2018-08-24T09:18:59+00:000 Comments

Life is like a joke

Let me begin by telling you a joke. A man goes to the vet and says “doctor, doctor my dog has no nose.” “How does he smell?” “Awful!” (Sorry about that but stick with me on this).  Life is like a joke because: It attracts our attention ‘A man goes to the vet.’ We feel sympathy for the man, obviously something is wrong. It introduces us to new and surprising things: “the dog has no nose.” Just like the vet, we want to know more “How does he smell?” This is a perfectly good and rational question, just what we [...]

2018-08-07T12:42:43+00:000 Comments