This blog is two weeks out of date now, but I have recently suffered a bereavement in the family and parts of my life got put on the back burner to make way for other things. However, I hope you still find it relevant and interesting.
I have a friend who doesn’t say much but when he does, it’s straight to the point. It’s caring, considered and altogether brief. But it is also perfect. Not a word too many or too few, each with a precise purpose and meaning. He can say more with ten words than many say with a thousand. So perhaps it’s not surprising that his New Year message to me hit home, so much so, that it got me reflecting on what is it with New Year messages, how is it that the exact same words from two different people can generate two different reactions in me, can it only be context?
For example; a long-forgotten friend’s message simply saying ‘thinking of you and wishing you well’ can deeply move me, while the same, or similar message from someone else might not touch me at all. If we assume that they were both sincerely meant, then it can only be how I feel about the giver or the mood and circumstances I am in when I receive the message that makes the difference. And that cannot be the givers fault at all, it’s complex and confusing all at once. As far as context is concerned though, thank goodness the mass blitzing of midnight, end of year text messages is no more!
With most people long back at work or in their daily routines, all I can advise for any late face to face 2019 wishes, is to take a moment to pause and to try and set the context as best you can because the person in front of you is the person you are likely to spend a great deal of time with during 2019, and a good opening will surely have an influence on its end.
So for now, I will stop it here and simply say
‘Wishing you all a splendid 2019’.