The trouble with you is…

//The trouble with you is…

The trouble with you is…

When was the last time you heard those words and what were the circumstances in which they were spoken?  None of us like being reminded of our failures but the simple truth is that for most of us it will have been our life partner, close friend or possibly even our boss that points them out in this clear and unambiguous way.

Being told ‘the trouble with you is’ once in a while might not do ever lasting damage and can at times even help to keep our ego’s in check but heard too often and we begin to recoil into ourselves and fail to perform anywhere near to our ability.  

It is a fact that many leaders are over confident of the capacities of others.  So when those around them fail to perform to the standards expected, instead of offering an apology for pushing them into something for which they were either not capable of or unprepared for, the worst leaders dish out unwelcome criticism on top!

It is a complex blend of encouragement, belief, patience and perseverance that obtains the best results in others.  It can be a useful exercise to remind oneself that not everyone is as cleaver, knowledgeable, or as motivated as you are and that probably for them doing OK is fine.

There is an accepted malaise in many companies that simply turning up for work and doing one’s job is somehow sufficient.  However I am a person that likes to go the extra mile, that likes to deliver my work to the very utmost of my abilities.  I am almost never satisfied with my own results and that is one reason why I am never completely satisfied with the work of others either, people like me find it all too easy to find fault in everything.

One of the tricks of a happy and well balanced life at work and at home is to learn when to keep one’s mouth shut and to avoid saying ‘the trouble with you is’, whenever humanly possible!

Have a good week


2016-11-17T08:24:57+00:000 Comments

About the Author:

Harley is a dynamic 'we can do this' kind of person with a successful track record of working for a wide variety of companies in all kinds of sectors. From very small family run businesses right through to giant multi-nationals. Over the last thirty five years Harley has built a reputation for inspiring those around him to rout out and tackle the core problems facing their organizations. Armed with a wide range of pragmatic tools that he has developed over the years, Harley is able to help his clients bring about long-term, sustainable solutions, while having fun at the same time. Harley is a motivational 'people person' who is nonetheless tough on efficiency and delivery. Apart from being well known for his highly entertaining and motivational speeches, Harley is also a blogger and author of four books; 'The Change Manager's Handbook', 'Transition', 'Inspirational Leadership’ and ‘Making a Difference’.

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